My husband and I took a two-week motorcycle trip out west in August. With plenty of seat time to think, I discovered four unexpected leadership lessons that seem particularly relevant as we are preparing for life in the Next Normal. This is lesson #4. Links to previous lessons can be found at the bottom of this post.
Riding nearly 3,000 miles on a motorcycle isn't the most comfortable way to travel, especially when you're the one on the back. I'd be lying if I didn't tell you that I had more than a little stiffness in the back and legs along with some numbness in the seat on this trip.
But there are plenty of reasons why it was worth it:
I thought about this notion of comfortableness and had to admit that I had worried about this in advance. How would I stay warm or cool enough? What if it rained (or snowed, which it did one day)? Could I make it the whole two weeks riding as much as nine hours a day on the bike?
While it helps to think about these things in advance to plan appropriately, the worry was unfounded. We packed for changing weather, we took breaks throughout the day whenever we wanted them, and at some point, I simply adapted.
Being comfortable is not the goal
It made me think of how much we worry about being uncomfortable in life and leadership and, perhaps, how misplaced that worry is. It's human nature to seek a pleasant path, of course. But being comfortable is not the goal of leadership. And it shouldn't be our focus.
If you're like me, I suspect there are many times as a leader you've been tempted to prioritize being comfortable over a lot of other things:
I can recall many sleepless nights I've had, lying awake for hours thinking through a difficult decision or complex situation I needed to deal with. Inevitably I would wonder if there wasn't an easier solution – those options always seemed a lot more attractive! But in the end, I knew they weren't the best ones.
Almost always, the bigger challenge was accepting that I needed to forgo feeling comfortable in order to do the right thing.
Choosing a more comfortable path isn't necessarily wrong. But most of the time it's not the most productive option. And many times, it can make matters worse:
What you gain by being uncomfortable
It's ideal when you can enjoy being a leader. But leadership often means you must do hard things, make difficult decisions and accept responsibility when things go wrong.
I am confident you have come to grips with this reality long ago, and you are probably even more aware of this requirement of leaders now. 2020 has certainly brought more than its share of discomfort to leaders everywhere.
But I am also confident you have realized some significant benefits for yourself and your team this year as a result of your willingness to lead in exceedingly uncomfortable times:
As you look ahead to 2021, I'd like to share three ways you can continue to deal with the inevitable discomforts of leadership, particularly as you plan for the Next Normal. I hope these practical strategies are useful not only for your own day-to-day leadership but also as you coach your team to hang in there through the uncomfortableness of this unique moment.
1. Lead with a growth mindset
Very often leaders shrink back from uncomfortable situations out of fear. They hesitate to make a difficult decision for fear of being judged or criticized. They are unwilling to move outside their comfort zone because they may look foolish in their attempt. Or perhaps they fear making a mistake is a commentary on their intelligence.
These are fears that stem from a fixed mindset, or the belief that our abilities and intellect cannot be markedly improved, so therefore we should avoid being in situations that make us uncomfortable.
As we so often learn, our fears are largely unfounded and driven by our inner critic. A fixed mindset holds us back from leading courageously. By adopting a growth mindset, you can learn to view challenges differently and tackle them with greater confidence.
Growth mindset, a term coined by Stanford professor and psychologist Carol Dweck, is the understanding that your skills and abilities can change. Working through difficult situations can help you learn and grow. Being willing to be uncomfortable can offer an opportunity to develop new skills or become more resilient.
Here are a few strategies that will help you adopt a growth mindset in uncomfortable situations and allow you to lead with more courage and confidence.
2. Stay close to the front lines of your business.
It can be hard to know what's going on in your business in times of uncertainty. Signals are confusing, rules are changing, and your attention is often divided between multiple crises happening sometimes all at once. Uncertainty breeds uncomfortableness.
In these situations, it is tempting to rely on your team to deal with the nitty-gritty so you can stay clear of the chaos happening on the front lines. While you want to empower your team to help you make sense of what's happening, you must stay close to the front lines yourself. If you don't, you'll miss sensing important shifts that could substantially impact your company's future.
Plus, you bring some valuable things to the table in uncertain and uncomfortable situations:
Here are a few suggestions for how you can stay close to the front lines and more in touch with what's going on.
3. Get clear about your purpose.
2020 has been a challenging year. But it has also been a time of meaningful reflection for many leaders to consider how and why they lead. If it's this hard, is it really worth it?
One thing is clear: It can't be all about the money, fame and power. These things are nice and they are just rewards for the hard work of leadership. But they don't always materialize. If they do, they don't last. And ultimately, they don't satisfy. There must be something more.
The more meaningful rewards of leadership are the intrinsic ones – the chance to have an impact, to be a catalyst, to make positive change, to create something from nothing, to feel a sense of satisfaction from achieving challenging goals. Sometimes these rewards require you to be uncomfortable in the process. But they are well worth whatever discomfort must be endured.
One of the best strategies for dealing with the challenges of leadership is having a clear sense of purpose about why you lead. If you're not sure, take a moment to answer these questions:
These questions allow you to step back and think more broadly about your leadership journey. I hope they help you clarify your purpose for leading and allow you to see the positive impact and influence you can have – not only on your team and your organization, but also on your community, your industry and the world.
If you haven't already, I encourage you to read the first three installments in this series. Part one, 4 Unexpected Ways to Navigate the Next Normal, part two, We Grow Most When We Are Challenged: Practical Ways to Expand Your Leadership Skills For the Next Normal and part three, The Greatest Potential Lies in the Less Obvious.